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Post by Andy Turnbull on Jun 11, 2018 21:47:09 GMT
Sending good thoughts chum.
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Post by Shockprowl on Jun 12, 2018 18:22:28 GMT
Absolutely. Dementia is bloody horrible.
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Jun 25, 2018 11:29:49 GMT
More good thoughts needed. There have been a number of incidents again the last few weeks (The Transport Police are lovely folk for example). Enough for mother-in-law's case to soar to the top of the pile at Social Services where it has languished for months. Meeting with social worker in next day or two to review case etc.
Tough family discussions were had last week and have concluded with (finally!) recognising she is no longer safe living independently and we need to make arrangements for care etc.
Hopefully we can help social to see that too. On the phone to them this morning they were (going off case notes 4 months old) suggesting a couple of day trips a week might be what we need. Err, no. This is why you should have been reviewing her case months ago when you said you would.
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Post by The Doctor on Jun 25, 2018 19:56:18 GMT
Indeed.
-Ralph
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Jun 25, 2018 22:08:38 GMT
I am meeting with social worker tomorrow to bring her up to speed. Then a family meeting with social worker and mother-in-law on Wednesday.
The carer we have employed for the last few weeks to help us out also concurs it is time for full time care.
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Jun 26, 2018 4:13:31 GMT
Escalating rapidly. Phone call just gone 4am from ambulance folk saying they have picked her up walking on the motorway (again). This blows all of our expectations/constraints on when she goes out away. She is now here with myself and Joy. Rest of family being summoned back from holiday. Will speak to social as soon as they get into office. At least she is safe for moment. (I have got only four hours of bad sleep. Spent most of the last hour in pain on loo having guts turned inside out by IBS that does not respond well to interrupted or minimal sleep. )
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Jun 26, 2018 11:39:43 GMT
Mother-in-law going into emergency care. Social Worker here like lighting this morning and we have an initial assessment going on from a care home currently.
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Post by Andy Turnbull on Jun 26, 2018 11:44:51 GMT
It's a bad job that things have to get to this stage before they start doing their job.
Glad things are moving in the right direction now though and that your mother in law is unharmed from recent events.
Andy
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Jun 26, 2018 14:21:25 GMT
'Emergency' care begins on Thursday. Not sure that's quite what the social worker was expecting from the care home when she said they had space to take her immediately.
It's sorted now anyway. She was exhausted and slept for five hours once delivered here. We think she must have been wondering about most of the night since her carer left her yesterday evening. Completely the wrong shoes for walking in as well and her left foot is now a wreck of blisters. Nice, soft, comfy shoes we bought her on Sunday were found filed away at home and no memory of them.
Mrs M gone to work as she is the senior member of staff on duty until 8pm. I am shattered and might just sleep. Many hours spent clutching the throne today as my IBS does not respond well to only four hours of sleep.
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Post by Grand Moff Muffin on Jun 26, 2018 16:38:18 GMT
I'm with you in spirit, Gavin. Issues here with a parent - not the same issues but comparable, that's all I'll say.
Martin
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Jun 26, 2018 17:05:46 GMT
Thanks Martin. Will keep your situation in mind too.
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Post by Philip Ayres on Jun 26, 2018 17:57:10 GMT
All the best to both of you and your families.
One can sympathise, having elderly parent concerns though nowhere near that degree....
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Jun 26, 2018 18:17:28 GMT
Is this the age we are all getting to now?
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Post by Shockprowl on Jun 27, 2018 6:41:44 GMT
Is this the age we are all getting to now? Yep. The Wheel of Life has turned. It's as cruel as it is inevitable. We're now the 'lead' Generation.
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Post by The Doctor on Jun 27, 2018 7:12:33 GMT
At least a fire has been put under the ass of SW.
-Ralph
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Jun 27, 2018 8:34:23 GMT
Indeed. Unfortunately it has also set the nearby moors alight!
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Post by browny87 on Jun 27, 2018 9:05:11 GMT
im pleased they have found her a slot that fast, from experience its sometimes really hard to manage.
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Post by Bogatan on Jun 27, 2018 10:18:35 GMT
I remember when my Granny got to that point. It seems wrong and it probably nearly killed my Grandad, but eventually there really is no other choice. At least it seems to have been resolved pretty quickly for you.
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Jun 27, 2018 11:21:44 GMT
Yeah, we realise how fortunate we were here. As Ralph was saying circumstances lit a fire under Social to get this done, but all credit to them in that we went from an ambulance crew picking her up at 4am to a successful completion of a place by 1pm.
We're visiting the home at 2.30pm to check it out and put up some photos and some clothes in the wardrobe etc so it feels more homely tomorrow when she moves in.
The home seems to get very good reviews online (for care from staff especially) which is encouraging. And they have sensor mats at the bed and chair so when folk get up and down they know and can send staff quickly to new people to see how they are doing as they get to know their habits. We were also encouraged that on moving in days *that* is the only thing that goes on in the home beyond routine day-to-day stuff so staff are focused and their is nothing unusual/worrying for new residents as they arrive. Shows a nice level of thought I think.
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Post by browny87 on Jun 27, 2018 11:24:36 GMT
that sounds really positive and really well thought through, fingers crossed that moving day goes well for her
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Post by chrisl on Jun 28, 2018 7:59:59 GMT
Thoughts with you all
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Jun 28, 2018 8:05:05 GMT
Thanks both.
Home visited yesterday. We were all impressed. Moving in at 3pm today.
Much confusion/distress hours after though when she had a moment of relative lucidity and it all sunk in.
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Post by Shockprowl on Jun 28, 2018 13:33:22 GMT
That's heavy, Fortmax. My thoughts are with you all.
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Jun 29, 2018 7:33:49 GMT
We moved her in yesterday. Went as well as it could. Tough on all. Biggest difficulty was convincing Mrs M's Dad to not stay all afternoon and evening and give her some space to settle in. They're not married any more and haven't lived together for 15 years but think there are some big feelings of 'guilt' there. The four of us most involved here and some of the wider family (but not Mrs M's mum) are all out at a play tonight so that should provide a bit of welcome relief.
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Sept 2, 2018 21:04:31 GMT
In a&e with Mrs M's mum. Possible heart attack.
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Post by The Doctor on Sept 2, 2018 21:09:46 GMT
Shit. Best wishes.
-Ralph
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Post by legios on Sept 2, 2018 21:13:13 GMT
Sorry to hear that! Good thoughts being sent thy way.
Karl
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Post by Grand Moff Muffin on Sept 2, 2018 21:24:45 GMT
We're with you, pal.
Martin
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Post by Andy Turnbull on Sept 2, 2018 21:25:57 GMT
Sending good thoughts your way.
Andy
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Post by Shockprowl on Sept 3, 2018 6:19:59 GMT
Ditto.
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