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Post by Benn on Oct 2, 2020 14:37:37 GMT
Thoughts for all your needs, man.
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Post by Bogatan on Oct 2, 2020 17:54:01 GMT
Area around temp filling from Tuesday remains sensitive when eating or drinking. Bit of a literal pain, especially as despite prior to that having lost the filling and with most of the tooth decayed I had no discomfort whatsover. Not had any sensitivity from fillings in the past. Hope this settles soon. It is not helping my head. -Ralph It happens that way sometimes. Lots of possible reasons and sometimes can take a while to settle down.
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Post by The Doctor on Oct 9, 2020 20:08:57 GMT
It has yet to settle.
Major dental work required over the next month. Yikes.
-Ralph
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Post by The Doctor on Oct 14, 2020 18:32:59 GMT
Channeling required! I am on day 5 of trying to do the first essay of OU year 5 and I can't get a word down. I don't understand the material. I don't understand the questions. Six prior months of mostly doing nothing due to furlough etc means my brain has turned to mush. Complete brain fog. Finding it difficult to work at home rather than my usual library routine.
I know if I get something submitted I'll be over the hump, will get feedback and will probably get the rest of the course done ok. Just a bare pass will do for the first one.
Never had this problem getting started before.
-Ralph
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Post by Benn on Oct 14, 2020 19:26:19 GMT
On it!
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Post by Grand Moff Muffin on Oct 14, 2020 20:35:14 GMT
Yup!
Martin
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Post by chrisl on Oct 15, 2020 8:23:42 GMT
Channeling required! I am on day 5 of trying to do the first essay of OU year 5 and I can't get a word down. I don't understand the material. I don't understand the questions. Six prior months of mostly doing nothing due to furlough etc means my brain has turned to mush. Complete brain fog. Finding it difficult to work at home rather than my usual library routine. I know if I get something submitted I'll be over the hump, will get feedback and will probably get the rest of the course done ok. Just a bare pass will do for the first one. Never had this problem getting started before. -Ralph Try the Mumford Method of Academic WritingAlso channelling for you.
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Post by The Doctor on Oct 15, 2020 18:18:01 GMT
Submitted something. As long as it scrapes a pass I'll be happy as it gets me over the hump and still on schedule. Tutorial tomorrow night, which I hope doesn't end with me screaming that I need to rewrite the damned thing.
-Ralph
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Post by The Doctor on Oct 23, 2020 19:54:40 GMT
Area around temp filling from Tuesday remains sensitive when eating or drinking. Bit of a literal pain, especially as despite prior to that having lost the filling and with most of the tooth decayed I had no discomfort whatsover. Not had any sensitivity from fillings in the past. Hope this settles soon. It is not helping my head. -Ralph It finally settled two days ago. Sensitivity went to be replaced by toothache. I am due in tomorrow for many fillings elsewhere but will nees to ask if the dodgy tooth now needs pulled and cough up even more cash. -Ralph
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Post by The Doctor on Nov 15, 2020 9:13:58 GMT
My confidence is at all-time low as the last few weeks at work suck the life out of me and had terrible feedback/score on first essay in OU course 5 (which is at a higher level than the last 4). I just can't get essay 2 done. I don't understand the material. I don't think I'm any good. I think I have a structure now to break it down over a 4-day period to cobble a bare pass essay. Channelling please. I'd just had more dental work to extend the life of my teeth after grinding them down due to anxiety.
I know once I get out of this job I'll get my old self back but it is so difficult. They won't even tell me when my last day is.
-Ralph
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Post by Grand Moff Muffin on Nov 15, 2020 12:51:05 GMT
I think I have a structure now to break it down over a 4-day period I think this is the best way to go about any daunting task - break it down into manageable chunks, make a schedule and tackle it one piece at a time, rewarding yourself in a small way after each milestone. Best thoughts coming your way. Martin
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Post by Benn on Nov 15, 2020 13:12:39 GMT
thoughts, man
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Post by The Doctor on Nov 18, 2020 13:01:54 GMT
Bit shocked and not sure what to feel. Things came to an unexpected and unplanned point where I completely broke down at work and couldn't handle it anymore. I have now been signed off work for an "anxiety disorder" by the GP until the end of the year. So that covers the end of my fixed-term contract at work so I won't be back. I handed in my work phone and laptop before I left.
This is not the way I wanted to end the job. This is not how I have ever ended a job. I've got nowhere to go now. In truth, if I was still on my own I probably would have persevered until the end of the contract but there's two of us now so I can't just think about me anymore.
On the positive, I can now use the rest of the year as breathing space to reset my head and try to start afresh in the new year to find another job. Where, when? No idea. 18 months ago I was at my most confident self in a decade and now I shit myself going out the front door.
Shell shocked.
-Ralph
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Post by Philip Ayres on Nov 18, 2020 13:48:54 GMT
When your Doctor says stop, you stop, especially if you're Doctor is any good and we tend to think your current lot are.
I parted company with my employer not how I would have wished. I went in to get the renewal done on my ill health stuff and my GP said "I think you should finish, I'll sign anything you put in front of me" Took me two months thinking before I went back and said OK
My employer was a good one - yours has been **** even before the chaos bug struck and F***ing dreadful afterwards. Negligent would be a very good word to use. You are very much better off out of there, but I can understand where you're coming from.
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Post by The Doctor on Nov 18, 2020 14:31:32 GMT
I just didn't see this coming. I was determined to see out my contract.
I'm really shocked how it ended so suddenly and unexpectedly. I didn't feel in control of events. It all just sort of happened as if it was happening to someone else. Who am I now? What do I do?
-Ralph
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Post by Shockprowl on Nov 18, 2020 15:29:58 GMT
You'll figured it out Doc'. And whilst you're figuring, have some channelling *NNNGGGHHH!*
You're free of that place. FREE.
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Post by Andy Turnbull on Nov 18, 2020 18:13:05 GMT
I suspect you will start to feel a weight lift in the next few days chum, speaking from experience.
Channeling is engaged though.
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Post by Benn on Nov 18, 2020 18:41:10 GMT
indeed, channeling coming your way.
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Post by Grand Moff Muffin on Nov 18, 2020 18:41:46 GMT
Maybe I have jigsaw-on-the-brain this week, but the way I see it Covid has smashed up parts of the jigsaw that was life pre-Covid, and with vaccines and what-not all the pieces will come together in a different way next year to make a different picture. A lot of people (jigsaw pieces) will find they are now part of a different thing in the new picture, and don't know what it will be yet. I'm sure you will be in a nicer bit of the new societal jigsaw than you were in the old one. It's unsettling not knowing what, but everything's too much in motion just now and we don't have a box lid to tell us what it's going to be.
Martin
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Nov 20, 2020 16:00:43 GMT
I have been signed off work for at least two weeks with stress and anxiety.
Hopefully it'll give me the headspace to make some decisions that I feel have long been needed to be made.
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Post by Shockprowl on Nov 20, 2020 16:08:22 GMT
Sorry to hear that, M. Channelling coming your way.
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Post by Grand Moff Muffin on Nov 20, 2020 16:53:50 GMT
Oh no, not another chum down. Down with 2020! Martin
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Nov 20, 2020 19:03:09 GMT
It's not been good for months now but I hoped to fight may way through to Christmas holidays when there would be head space to make some decisions.
We've just had (another) reorganisation at work and my case load tripled compared to six months ago. Plus in two years I've not really been trained to do my job. And then add on Covid and new baby (although Naomi is of course delightful).
Just fell apart at lunch and Mrs M got me to contact the GP who I broke down to even more when he called hastily after my message went in. Meanwhile new manager was sending me emails demanding work and changing deadlines for it as she had been doing every day this week. I think she feels slightly awkward now.
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Post by Shockprowl on Nov 20, 2020 19:13:49 GMT
That's not good, M. What's wrong with these bloody employers?
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Post by The Doctor on Nov 20, 2020 19:37:39 GMT
Just fell apart at lunch and Mrs M got me to contact the GP who I broke down to even more when he called hastily after my message went in. Meanwhile new manager was sending me emails demanding work and changing deadlines for it as she had been doing every day this week. I think she feels slightly awkward now. Having had similar happen to me on Wednesday it's not nice but probably for the best in time. If your GP tells you to stop then stop. -Ralph
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Post by Fortmax2020 on Nov 20, 2020 20:21:22 GMT
Previous manager was actually very helpful and helped keep my stress largely in check (if still growing) for the last few months.
Going to have to think about whether I go back at all.
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Post by Andy Turnbull on Nov 20, 2020 20:37:27 GMT
Sorry to hear of the troubles M, but sounds like it might not be worth going back.
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Post by The Doctor on Nov 26, 2020 13:35:15 GMT
My work didn't accept the sick note and furloughed me until the end of contract instead and similtaneously stopped the "wellbeing" checks. Not accepting the legally binding sick note is disgraceful but on form. It does mean my last pay will be better (80% rather than SSP) so with no job to go to in the forseeable future I'll just have to let it go. Means I can delay Universal Credit for as long as possible. I still shit myself every time the phone pings. I hope never to hear from them ever again.
Roll on 2021.
-Ralph
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Post by browny87 on Nov 27, 2020 10:32:26 GMT
channelling positive energy to our chums struggling at the moment! it will get better and now its time to look after yourselves and your own health and not think about looking after them and what they "need"
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Post by The Doctor on Dec 2, 2020 9:25:38 GMT
Positive check-in with GP this morning. I felt re-assured when I told her I don't feel any better yet and she said it would have been odd if I had said that I did, given what happened with me having a breakdown. So that, strangely, has helped.
Another check-in in a fortnight. I'm trying to avoid meds and doing every day what the mental health worker advised but we'll see where I am in two weeks.
Current GP practice is fantastic. It's nice to be able to say I'm getting a good NHS service again after the last lot.
-Ralph
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